Relationships June 29, 2017
It's easier than you think.
So you’re single. Obviously you wouldn’t be here if you weren’t.
Single life sucks – it sucks hard. And being single means you’re on the relationship hunt.
You may not have had a lot of dating experience in high school, so you don’t really know what to do. Or maybe you just want to get a girlfriend fast (which you should not do). You’ve tried the online dating thing, but it just isn’t working out.
You’ve even tried self-help books on how to make yourself more attractive to others. Put that down now. Instead, follow these tips on how to get a girlfriend and maybe, just maybe, you can finally pull yourself out of the singles’ club. It’s a lonely club if we’re being honest.
“Make friends with women. All kinds of women. Reach out on a non-romantic basis.”
This is actually super simple. Some of the best relationships start from a friendship. Obviously there needs to be some sort of attraction there (if that wasn’t clear when looking for someone to bang) but a solid friendship is a great start. Then, when you get to the romantic stuff you are comfortable with each other and aren’t going into it without any knowledge.
“Hell even if you are attractive, getting a puppy never hurts.”
This sounds so stupid, I know, but puppies are such a chick magnet. Almost everybody loves a cute puppy, especially women. You’re pretty much considered a freak if you don’t love a cute puppy.
As a woman, I know I constantly stop to pet all kinds of dogs wherever I am. Maybe you can spark up a nice conversation and ask a girl out to coffee or a doggie date when a woman stops to pet your dog.
Yes, I know how that sounds, but it’s true.
“My suggestion is to stop looking for a girlfriend. I’m with the girl of my dreams and only found her after years of not giving a fuck and just being myself. I think that’s the most healthy way to do it. Better to fall into a relationship than seek one out.”
This is one of the truest things about relationships around. When you’re trying your hardest to look for a relationship, it isn’t going to come. You’re trying too hard to be quite honest.
Some of the greatest things in life come from just letting go and letting life take its natural course. I can attest to this from my own experience. The right person will find their way to you. You just need to be patient.
“I went up to her and asked her on a date.”
Honestly, one of the most attractive things a guy can do is be direct. Even though this can be scary as hell, I know, you’ve just got to be direct about what you want. The worst someone can do is say no, and you take it and move on.
You never know how someone else might be feeling about you, so be direct and just ask. It could turn out great… maybe, hopefully.
“Be yourself, but you have to put yourself out there. Meet three new people per day, guys or girls. You don’t need to be their best friends or ask them on a date. If you get along with them and enjoyed meeting them, then go ahead and ask for their number. Then you can hang out with the guy and his friends and potentially meet girls that way at parties or you can go on some dates with the girls you connected with.”
Friends can be key players in helping you meet the person of your dreams. You can go out to parties, events and social gatherings with a friend and meet all kinds of new people – and maybe even hit it off with one of them. This happened to me, and it’s honestly a great way to meet a potential partner.
The key is to not go into it thinking you’re going to meet someone. Just be open to talking to new people and introducing yourself. Don’t be the creeper waiting to pounce on someone. No one likes that guy. And always be open to letting your friend be your wingman, no matter how stupid they may sound.
“No one will have the exact same vibes as you. My gf and I are like peanut butter and jelly, but you have to remember we are still two completely separate individuals. Find someone who you get along with and grow with that person toward a common end. I didn’t read everything but sounds like you’re hoping to find someone who you match 100 percent with right out the gate and that’s just setting yourself up for failure because the only person you’ll match 100 percent with is yourself.”
This is one of the best sentiments I’ve seen about finding a partner. You aren’t going to find someone who matches you perfectly. That’s nearly impossible. At the end of the day, it’s about having someone who you enjoy spending time with, and who challenges you. If you’re with someone who’s just like you, you’ll stay the same forever and thats boring af.
“Groom yourself. Dress well – This doesn’t mean suits or expensive attire, just make sure it fits, color matches, etc. Go to a place like Men’s Warehouse for help until you learn how to do so yourself.”
Looking put together is a must when trying to snag a potential partner. No one, and I mean no one, goes for the guy out at a function in his sweatpants. Sweatpants are to be worn in few circumstances – if you’re hungover, going to the gym or going to the airport. That’s about it, really.
Women LOVE a man who is well-dressed. It shows us that maybe you have your life together and that you have a sense of fashion (which means you might be able to pick out a decent gift for us when holidays and birthdays come around).
Wear your best clothes when you’re trying to find your partner, it will make you feel better about yourself and that will come off to others.
Ultimately, it’s up to you which tips and tricks you use to land the girl. The number one thing to remember, though, is that confidence is key.
Having some confidence in yourself will get you so far. And once you get the girl of your dreams, read this article on how to be real-life relationship goals.